Wednesday, October 13, 2010

On Marrying the Man of Every Woman’s Dreams


So, here it is - my first cheating-man poem.

Comments please!!

On Marrying the Man of Every Woman’s Dreams
BY Susan Baba

At first, you will think that you are important too.
Out of the many, he has chosen only you.
He will praise your beauty,
your soft hands,
your mermaid eyes.
He will call you the moon and stars
and you will believe him.
He will make you feel confident and poised
as he lightly holds your elbow,
to steer you through the crowds.
You will sit on park benches, restaurant booths, church pews
side by side.
You will both point to young and silly things
walking by, all short skirts and flirtatious longing
who think they have only their bodies to offer the world
But he -
he will praise your mind
your heart
your ability to always dress appropriately for the occasion
and he will seem to look inside of you and love you all the more.

Soon you will see that he is more important.
As your star peaks and begins its descent,
his will still be rocketing onward.
You will still be by his side.
He will still lead you by elbow through the crowd
of his adoring business associates and political allies
but he will not offer to get you a drink
or introduce you to his friends.
He will not even look at you

He will begin to work later now,
joke about the life of a “big man,”
promise to make up for missed engagements,
forgotten anniversaries.
But he will not.

You will try to ignore your senses,
but you will begin to feel small.
He will spend weekends away now.
He will know his children’s voices
from many phone conversations
But will always look on with astonishment
at how quickly they have grown.

You will wonder about his request that you never call him first,
about his sudden out of town trips
that seem to become more frequent,
but, you will not complain.
He will placate you with the reassurance that this is all done for your good.
It is what he must do to keep you wearing couture and driving luxury cars

Your eyes will scan the tennis bracelet on your wrist,
the vast expanse of home the two of you built together.
You will never tell him that you would give it all up
for the way things were.
You will want to,
but you will
not
say
a thing.

5 comments:

  1. A humorous poem with an interesting perspective. This was fun, and raised a smile on my face!

    Thank you. Love love, Andrew. Bye.

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  2. Susan...me likes the fidelity to reality here. I even told myself, mutely, of course, "this is soooo true." Coupled with Adichie, cheating is only in the province of Nigerian men...tehee.

    Unfortunately for both men and women, tis rather hard for us to wean ourselves off the grand illusions and infantilizing perceptions that come with dating someone.

    A part of me feels like the modern slogans of love need to be rethought. A man promises to be faithful? faithful to what exactly. Not to fuck another woman. Or faithful not to lie.

    Should we trust our senses? we are often wrong with our sense.

    Anyways, reading this reminded me of why I should only date God fearing women :)

    good read though.

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  3. Susan, it's such a beautiful poem. Sounds like it's really from the heart.
    Except it should have a happier ending.. The man should still treat the woman like the most important thing in the world for eternity!!!

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  4. wow. great stuff susan. sucks that it's based on a too true reality.

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  5. Thanks so much for reading and for the thoughtful comments. you guys rock!

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